Your Feedback on CBC’s National Story’s about Maintenance Enforcement

UPDATED: October 6, 2014 – Several of the stories are out now. We are hoping to see more balance in the Follows that come from CBC and hope you will check back.

Please be sure to read, comment here, on the CBC website and send your feedback to Holly Moore.

ORIGINAL POST: September 16, 2014 – CBC is working on a National story about Maintenance Enforcement Programs. Contact:holly.moore@cbc.ca CBC logo

95 comments for “Your Feedback on CBC’s National Story’s about Maintenance Enforcement

  1. carlin
    September 16, 2014 at 1:52 pm

    Even after receipts were provided MEP still billed me. Then a court order was made and MEP has ignored it and says I still owe $$$.

    • admin
      September 16, 2014 at 2:12 pm

      You may want to contact CBC at the email address above and also consider joining Anti Maintenance Enforcement on Facebook for help and support https://www.facebook.com/groups/2374072958/

      • Correna
        May 28, 2015 at 4:48 pm

        I was wondering if it isn’t too late to contact CBC about my issues with MEP. I have been charged a lot of extra money for nothing and have been dealing with them for 14 years.

        • admin
          May 28, 2015 at 6:27 pm

          I believe those stories are closed but certainly the more pressure put on the media the better. Don’t forget to fill out the petition here and get your MP and MLA involved. Keep the pressure on them. Join us on Facebook also, and above all spread the word.

          • Correna
            May 28, 2015 at 7:04 pm

            Thank you. I have joined the group on facebook. I recently moved from Alberta to BC. The issues were (are) with the Edmonton office. I did contact the MLA and MP in Calgary about this and they did nothing. Do I contact the MLA and MP here in BC as well? Thank you for your help!

          • admin
            May 28, 2015 at 8:31 pm

            I would keep constant pressure on them all and don’t accept any excuses. We all need to do this regularly by phone, email and face to face. It’s discouraging but they want that. They need to be forced to do their jobs.

    • Hailey
      September 24, 2014 at 11:19 pm

      That happened to us a while back too it’s crap

      • admin
        September 24, 2014 at 11:25 pm

        We agree with you. Please let CBC know. Please keep in touch with us for upcoming news and action.

    • Stephen Lockhart
      February 8, 2018 at 6:29 pm

      I had a similar action. Only they registered a garnishment order and it went against my credit as i was trying to buy a house. Needless to say. Never got it because THEY thought my LEGAL order was wrong because of my exs phobe calls… took months of court staff sending muĺtiple orders again and again then explaining then threatening. What we were told would take weeks all of a suddenly happened in4 hours after i sent a story to the press

      • admin
        February 8, 2018 at 7:16 pm

        Who’d you send it to? Did they run it?

  2. Shawn
    September 16, 2014 at 4:08 pm

    MEP is so flawed, hope some light gets shed on this mess of a program

  3. Trevor
    September 16, 2014 at 5:33 pm

    Nothing fair or equal about anything dealing with courts or mep.all a complete joke and money grab,funny when your ex has a legal aid lawyer she can keep things tied up for years in court over petty issues,no more lawyers for this guy.so sad the only ones getting hurt are the kids.

  4. darryl
    September 17, 2014 at 3:45 pm

    I hope they show the unfairness towards second families. show how the payors are being discriminated against, the fact that we have no civil rights. The fact that the payors are made to pay more than needed to raise a child on their own, forget that it is supposed to be equal, also that that there is no accountability to make sure the monies are being used properly for the children.the fact that payors are not left enough after a garnishee to support themselves with the basic needs, such as housing and food. this looks alot like the commercial of eating or lights or a home, so choose one because your not going to afford the others. How about the fact that Parental alienation is not recognized as the social disease that it is , and most importantly child abuse. The list goes on and the public is ignorant of the facts and the media seems to be afraid to report it.
    So cheers for the thought of investigating it for a story but I will not hold my breath waiting for it to happen.
    Sincerely
    The oppressed, The Alienated and morally disappointed

    • admin
      September 17, 2014 at 3:47 pm

      Keeping your silence does not make change.

      • Ryan
        September 21, 2014 at 1:45 pm

        Email to cbc sent.

        • admin
          September 21, 2014 at 1:47 pm

          Excellent.

      • darryl
        September 27, 2014 at 11:21 am

        Interview me, I sent a response to email and yet have seen no response

        • admin
          September 27, 2014 at 11:36 am

          They may have all their subjects at the moment. I know they received a lot of messages. It may take a while but they wet trying to reply to everyone.

      • Suzie
        July 14, 2018 at 10:50 pm

        My friend had his driver’s liscence taken away, bank account. How can he make payments if he can’t get to work?? This system is so corrupt. My friend has nothing, lost his home, everything. How is this right? He is a human being. I hate to admit this but hes tried killing himself because ges lost everything including his kids. What happened was that the company he was working for claimed bankrupcy. He lost his job . It’s so sad to see that someone so good as he is, is being treated so poorly. This has been going on for 4 years. He was never able to get in touch with anyone from MEP.

    • jeff
      April 23, 2015 at 12:41 pm

      I feel your pain brother. Its not fair. If we all stand up at the same time maybe we ll be noticed but it will take work!

  5. Ben
    September 17, 2014 at 6:10 pm

    Yes, count me in. I spent my life savings just to get access to my kids since 2008, as I fought embedded parental alienation. Also fought off a false claim of “attempted child apprehension (abduction) of which I easily won in court but was left with legal bills & time off work. Even through the judge threatened her with contempt for her attempted child abduction game, there was no attempt to make her pay but only 1000$ for costs which did not nearly cover expenses. She laughed openly in the court hallway afterwords. I fought severe depression due to the years of torment/hopelessness while getting very sick ( all well documented) and now am made to pay beyond my income and capability for three years now as I sink into debt. My ex has had a 70k per year union job for over 20 years and a large inheritance. FMEP is now telling me to go back to court at my expense, but I have no money for a lawyer and legal aid will not fund FMEP related court issues. In a few months my drivers license is being withheld which will cost me my job and all but make seeing my kids impossible due to the logistics and my ex wife demanding that I pick up the kids not a minute early and not a minute late. ( or she will most certainly call in another false claim of child abduction or have my access completely taken away due to it being an inconvenience to her) She lives a very good lifestyle financially & I have had times so desperate in 2012 that I lived in my vehicle. Things have only slightly improved through very very very hard work on my part & family support. I have documents to support everything plus more) Please call me so I can share some more sensitive information that convinced a reporter to support/publish my story in the past.

    • admin
      September 17, 2014 at 6:11 pm

      You will need to contact CBC at the email above.

    • Ryan
      September 22, 2014 at 12:25 pm

      Hah. My Ex is remarried to a millionaire and has a nanny. She doesn’t even work. Meanwhile I pay $3grand a /month and they arrive without even clothes and I get sent bills for $5 for my share of a prescription.

      The system drives good parents away from their kids.

    • rhonda
      September 25, 2014 at 9:37 am

      I feel your pain.

      • admin
        September 25, 2014 at 10:38 am

        Far to many of us are feeling this pain. When do we make it stop? Force change?

      • joan
        March 14, 2015 at 5:53 pm

        Really! I doubt it.

        • admin
          March 14, 2015 at 6:44 pm

          Doubt what?

    • Adam Christopher Dalman
      February 29, 2016 at 12:23 pm

      I have the same story. I feel your pain. My email is adamchristopherdalman@gmail.com
      Contact me for a class action lawsuit

      • Wendy Busch
        March 5, 2016 at 8:25 am

        My son is in the process of losing his house. He has been paying his child support and he has been a totally involved father over the past ten years. He left the military after fifteen years of service. He has battled ptsd and injuries received while in the military but despite numerous failed relationships he has persevered and he now has his journeyman crane operator ticket. His ex wife upon hearing of his engagement to a new lady has decided to have fmep backtrack several years and fmep is now demanding 35000 in back child support. His mortgage holder refuses to allow him to refinance his house because of the market. My granddaughter will now have no home to come to . fmep is garansheeing his wages already. He never received the paperwork to go to court.(he cannot afford a lawyer). Yes with all his issues he has gotten himself into a pickle financially but he has always paid his support of 1500.00 per month plus his mortgage. He is fighting with veterans affairs for compensation. he is currently facing homelessness and despair. I am retired and can do nothing to help him I will give him your e mail and hopefully he will be in touch..

    • Adam Christopher Dalman
      February 29, 2016 at 12:35 pm

      I have the same story. I feel your pain. FMEP totally destroyed my life bankruptcy and homelessness claimed is was for the good of the child who is in a wealthy home with a new father etc. adamchristopherdalman@gmail.com
      Contact me for a class action lawsuit

    • Donna
      March 11, 2016 at 8:00 am

      Ben, I’m so sorry to hear your story. I hope and pray your situation changes.

  6. Scott
    September 22, 2014 at 11:55 am

    My wife and I have started a Facebook web page, Canadian Maintenance Enforcement Victims. We both (remarried) are dealing with Maintenance Enforcement, obviously on opposite sides of the fence. Both of us are dealing with a make work initiative, government based program that has little power across the country. Unless both parties are in the same province, and even then some have perfected the art of hiding from MEP. My wife is owed over $20,000 in back payments for her two boys, one of which is autistic and could use some additional resources. The “father” is a class 1 truck driver in Canada but yet MEP can’t find him, track down his employer, or drivers license. My story is a bit different. Have paid my MEP payments but was late after moving from northern Mb to the Interlake…late making a payment due to new banking being set up. Wham, they are garnishing our joint bank account, pulling my drivers license and making ugly threats and accusations. The script they use when talking to fathers is one the displays us as deadbeats…maybe some, but not all. They over flex their muscles with the ones they can easily touch, but others get to hide and avoid paying. In the end, the children suffer but no one in the government cares. They are “doing their best” while being paid a very generous salary. Try getting ahold of your case worker, after dealing with the automated voice system in place. In 2-5 days, you get a standard call from the worker with the same usual lines. We have contacted MEP mangers, Justice Minister as it falls under his jurisdiction. Our MLA, countless emails to all but it’s like spinning your tires in the mud. All very nice and wanting to help but well put it in an email and we will fwd it to the appropriate person. Just sad!

    • Louise
      September 24, 2014 at 9:47 am

      I am on the other side of the fence. My ex is 4 months behind on his payments, and as of last week, nothing has been done. I’ve made a couple calls, and still waiting for a returned call.

      • admin
        September 24, 2014 at 12:21 pm

        Yes there are severe issues on both sides of these programs.

      • Ann
        July 22, 2016 at 1:44 pm

        I’m in that situation now. Court ordered on March 3rd and no payment as of yet, plus owes arrears. MEP gives me the run around when I question what is taking so long. Very frustrating.

  7. Russ McNeill
    September 24, 2014 at 4:25 am

    I would rather go to jail than deal with MEP ever again. They are not interested in Best interest of the children.

    After I got custody of my children (ex does not pay me support despite her working) they sent me a letter saying they were going to keep a writ against me “in case I ever had to pay support in the future” and this writ prevented me from sponsoring my current wife from living in Canada with me. Despite numerous letter from both me and my lawyer asking them to remove the writ because it was preventing me from sponsoring my wife and was a violation of my charter rights, all they had to say was they didn’t know anything about immigration, even after having the immigration act sent to them and having it spelled out for them that the writ was causing my family harm.

    Lots of other issues with those evil people at MEP. They don’t serve payors nor creditors. The best thing to do is to shut them down and start from scratch with a proper agency that is accountable for everyone, and is fair to everyone.

    • admin
      September 24, 2014 at 12:19 pm

      Please contact CBC at the address above.

  8. September 25, 2014 at 9:25 am

    Single working mom ordered by ON OCJ Justice (who does NOT specialize in family law) to pay delinquent ex- spouse (now custodial parent of 2 young boys) $892 month child support and $11K in one year of cs arrears while CAS played judge and jury giving temporary sole custody to alienating dad. While mom had joint custody and primary residence then shared custody of kids she could not get FRO to enforce spousal support and child support order from SCJ Order and Min of Settlement. Mom now on sick leave and on EI and dad’s lawyer efficiently calls FRO and gets FRO to quicly enforce the Order and Arrears which are now being Garnished from single sick leave mom’s EI cheques leaving her with no income and having to sell her home and rent. Dad’s withholding access for Sole custody and support. CAS and OCL closed the file leaving this mom in ruins fighting for access in one court hearing after another. Court appearances todate: lost count!

    • admin
      September 25, 2014 at 10:40 am

      It’s not much comfort but this appears to be happening in BC, Alberta and Ontario with sickening an alarming frequency.

  9. Ben Applegate
    September 28, 2014 at 11:50 am

    In 2008 my ex wife changed the locks on our house & started a campaign of parental alienation aimed at me. With her deep financial pockets she dragged out our divorce through the courts demanding all assets & full custody of our children. Even though I had no criminal element about me, did not drink or do drugs & not a violent bone in my body, I was forced to pay lawyers to represent my interest in our assets & children. As of today, I have payed out well over a 100,000 $ in legal fees and time off work due to documented permanent heart issues due to stress. I briefly lived in my vehicle in 2012 due to being financially decimated by the divorce industry. At current, the Family Enforcement Enforcement Program treats me like a criminal for getting behind in my child support payments. FMEP has closed the use of all my bank accounts, destroyed my flawless credit rating, taken my passport & put a hold on my drivers license. Upon me explaining to FMEP that my drivers license is my lifeline to my job & my children, they coldly explained that I must take up my concerns with the BC Supreme family court at my cost. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nSwOdlOcfGw&list=UUYxjqfMWCt5aCY3GODB790w

  10. Heidi
    October 2, 2014 at 8:54 pm

    As a mother to a child with mental health issues I don’t get a cent from her bio logical father. He is just over $30,000 in arrears to her and I. She is 9. MEP treats me like I’m at fault. They tell me to find him, find where he works, get his address. We don’t know where he is. We live 5 hours away from where I think he is. MEP officers are rude and ignorant and I’m the one taking care if our child. The system doesn’t work. He drives with no insurance and registration. He works 10 jobs a year. He puts his pay checks onto his pre paid credit card. He doesn’t file taxes. The Canadian government needs to step in and fix this. MEP makes millions of dollars off the program and that’s why it hasn’t and won’t change.

    • Tracy
      June 1, 2015 at 11:36 am

      I know how you feel Heidi – I have a son who has a medical disability and an ex who has not paid child support in 2 years with arrears of +$20K. Difference here is I told them where he lives, and where he works, not to mention lic. plate numbers etc. He is in the construction bus.and has worked on two different jobs sites in my neighborhood for the last 2 years. One right across from my balcony and the other 4 houses down the street. Last letter from MEP ” Case Inactive ” We are still unable to find out where the payor is living or working. An extensive trace has not turned up a current address or any information on the payor. (Next I will offer to take them by the hand and walk them on the job site)
      There is a lot of people on both sides that are being done wrong. I hope it all works out for you Heidi 🙂 (all of you)

    • C
      February 5, 2018 at 1:54 pm

      sounds like an oppressed father who does what he can to survive…but you want more then blood…try getting off the program, break out of the anti-family corrupt system, reach out and apologize for allowing them (mep and the rest of the hired mob) to torture the father and i bet things would turn around for the best of the children! the damage is real!

      • Mike
        October 10, 2018 at 5:39 pm

        I agree with C… Not to many grownups left in the world that we need other men and women to fight our battles and enforce and jail people for our own satisfaction and greed… MONEY

        What is the matter being adults about things and working things out ? Yes some cannot do it, but getting enforcement on MONEY is the WRONG avenue, only leads to destruction of our society and many suicides.

        I hear the same thing over and over, oh the deadbeat did not pay my children are suffering… If you are living above your means and not working, then yeah your children will suffer.

        So you get enforcement, and they garnish, take away passport, and DL, and now he is out of a job.. Does this help your situation ?

        There is so much support for women, yet the support for men is minimal and always not taken seriously. What is the statistics about the suicide rate between the father and mothers ? I am sure it will be an eye opener.

  11. Terry
    October 3, 2014 at 8:35 am

    You focus only on one side of the story, the mothers. What about the dads, that have been cut from their child’s life, by the mother, for no reason other than power. FMEP has taken my husband’s license (he is a truck driver, so now he has no way to make money to cover the outrageous payments), they have put him in jail, garnished his wages, cost him, I can’t even remember how many jobs…all because of what the mother says. He has never been allowed to explain his side of the story, because the these greedy people will not get their money. They are always saying that this program is for the children…I disagree with this!! They are in it to make a profit. How is it, that they have no rules to follow, they seem to have their own laws and no one will go up against them??? In their eyes if you are male, then you have no rights..you are just a sperm donor and an ATM!! I am so tired of talking to men, that have been through the ringer, because of FMEP…but hearing that the mom is always right.
    When my account went to FMEP, years ago, my ex and I decided that we wanted to get out of this horrible program, so he could actually afford to see the kids and it took me over 3 months to get them to close the account. AND IT WAS MY ACCOUNT.
    I agree, the system needs changing to work for both sides..not just the mothers!!

  12. Ryan
    October 6, 2014 at 10:15 am

    I almost fell out of my chair today. I recieved a letter from FMEP for special expenses.

    For background, I pay nearly $3,000/month, happily, for two kids. My ex quit her $70k job to try and increase my Spousal Support Liability (didn’t work) and she still does not work yet has given birth to twins from her new, very wealthy boyfriend. She also employs a nanny!

    The letter I received today includes the following;

    1. $11.13 for a prescription (to which I am responsible for 50% and I cover their extended medical and dental)
    2. $480 for tutoring to which there is no receipts, to which I had no knowledge of and to which my daughter who was supposedly tutored has no knowledge of.

    The letter goes on to state that these amounts will be added to the FMEP account.

    So I phone up FMEP and simply said, if she can submit expenses without receipts, can I?

    HOW RIDICULOUS IS THAT??? Yet CBC writes a tired dialogue on deadbeats. The system doesn’t know how to deal with us dads that step up and care for our children. It still treats us like dogs.

    She was even ordered to pay my legal expenses, almost 1 year ago in Supreme Court…..not even a penny has been paid….. go figure…. I feel for those that are due support and not getting it and back the FMEP to do whatever is required to collect the money however they need to recognize those recipients that are using the system to punish loving, caring payors whom acknowledge their responsibility. Shame on you FMEP.

  13. Terri
    January 2, 2015 at 6:17 pm

    I have nothing but good things to say about maitenance enforcement so far. The only thing that should change in NS is that there needs to be a calculating officer. Payees should not have to have orders changed. The payor should have to submit their tax return to maitenance enforcement. And they should adjust it. Other provinces have a calculating officers. I don’t understand why NS doesn’t? I’d be willing to do that as a career. I have two degrees and am quite able to be of assistance. On a serious note though mep is doing a good job so far with my case. I think if this agency didn’t exist most payors would not pay. They expect the payee to move on and be a career person and raise their kids on their own. It takes two! Just because a woman or man has a new partner does Not mean the responsibility of child support is abolished. The gov had no choice to create this process because people believe child support is debatable or move on and expect the main care giver to do it on their own. It lowers welfare rates. It may have it’s negatives but it so far hasn’t let me down. The threat of garnishment or loss of drivers licences is a great way to get what is owed to the children. Tk God for this program.

    • Reality
      January 26, 2015 at 7:06 am

      Terri,

      You have absolutely no idea what you are talking about. Child support should be in the best interest of the CHILDREN. All you seem to care about is money, and having your ex partner’s wages garnished. I have been paying for over 7 years, and always been on time, despite the mothers refusal to let me see my daughter. How is that fair?

      Maybe stop being so greedy, and do what is best for your children, instead of expecting a free ride off the back of your ex.

      • Alex
        May 15, 2016 at 3:14 pm

        Truth. MEP is altogether vile. So is FMEP and FRO. They have no interest whatsoever in the children. They accept every lie the women feed them and then use those lies to ruin the man, hiding behind their little guise of working in the child’s best interest. And then, we men get to live on the streets and also carry the blame for the “fatherless society” we all live in. It’s absolutely sickening.

    • Truth
      January 26, 2015 at 7:07 am

      You have absolutely no idea what you are talking about. Child support should be in the best interest of the CHILDREN. All you seem to care about is money, and having your ex partner’s wages garnished. I have been paying for over 7 years, and always been on time, despite the mothers refusal to let me see my daughter. How is that fair?

      Maybe stop being so greedy, and do what is best for your children, instead of expecting a free ride off the back of your ex.

      • Terri
        February 25, 2015 at 5:58 pm

        I don’t expect a free ride. I just expect what is owed to my children. It is not the woman’s job to pay for children that have a father on her own. It’s unfortunate that you think I expect a feed ride. I didn’t go to university for 6 years and work in construction for ten to have children that should solely depend on my income.. It takes two. The sole care giver should not have to pay for everything on their own.. What world do you live in? Your selfish to think the non custodial parent should not have to pay. Careers do not work around childrens schedules..when not having a partner to help you with child rearing it leaves you to look for work hours that revolve around your children..you have to make up for that on your own.. You have the ability to work where ever you want.. For as long as you want. So I get to work two full time jobs.. While you work one.. Do i think it’s fair that you can’t see your kids?? Of course not. But just so you know.. Not all fathers care to see there kids.. And child support is 100 percent in the best interest of the children. I gotta take care of my kids and pay the bills to give my kids the necessities they need. Sorry if you think worrying about a mortgage.. Gas.. Groceries..phone bills… Clothes.. University degrees .. Vechicle..health care.. Tutors for developmental delays is being selfish .. If that’s selfish.. I’m 100 percent guilty and sleep just fine at night..

        • Truth
          February 25, 2015 at 6:16 pm

          Nobody cares how many years of University you attended, or what type of construction job you did. You should be more concerned about the best interests of the children, which would be for both biological parents to play a role in the upbringing of their child. As of today, 97% of custodial parents are women. Maybe just be thankful about the fact that you have custody of your children, and stop worrying about yourself.

          Despite what you think, most biological fathers try to get involved, and help out their children. You’re warped opinion is that most are deadbeat, who would rather skip town, and leave you footing the bill. I feel sorry for you. You are trying to have your cake and eat it. When is the last time you let the biological father see your kids?

          When you say “It is not the woman’s job to pay for children that have a father on her own.” is very telling. Do you want a medal for working? You are full of self-entitlement. Just be glad you live in a country that discriminates against men, in terms of being able to care for children, and creates these kinds of situations where fathers are deemed insignificant in their childrens lives.

          PS…I would trade “working wherever I want” in a heartbeat, if it meant being able to establish a relationship with my child. Stop worrying about material possessions, and be thankful the courts gave you custody of your children.

          • T
            March 8, 2015 at 5:30 pm

            You make no sense at all. Paying child support is in the best interest of the child. You sound like an angry person. Which I would understand if you cannot see your children. I will be worrying about money to raise my children for the next 18 years and that does not make me materialistic. I don’t deny acess.. I’m all about sharing custody but as I said not all fathers care about custody.. But that’s noting going to help pay the bills now is it.. And when your children become old enough they will appreciate the fact you paid to help them live.. And they may decide one day they want to be with you.. I’m sorry you hate women like me..I only want to raise my kids and give them a good life.. And one day they will realize how unselfish I am unlike you. Not all women are like your ex so please don’t paint me with that brush. Child support exist because it is 100 percent in the best interest of the child.

          • DestroyedDad
            March 10, 2015 at 7:37 pm

            “You make no sense at all. Paying child support is in the best interest of the child. You sound like an angry person. Which I would understand if you cannot see your children. I will be worrying about money to raise my children for the next 18 years and that does not make me materialistic. I don’t deny acess.. I’m all about sharing custody but as I said not all fathers care about custody.. But that’s noting going to help pay the bills now is it.. And when your children become old enough they will appreciate the fact you paid to help them live.. And they may decide one day they want to be with you.. I’m sorry you hate women like me..I only want to raise my kids and give them a good life.. And one day they will realize how unselfish I am unlike you. Not all women are like your ex so please don’t paint me with that brush. Child support exist because it is 100 percent in the best interest of the child.”

            ^It is people like this that prove we need Family Law reform desperately in Canada. This may sound harsh to some, but custodial parents who refuse to adhere to visitation orders, and deliberately make it virtually impossible for a non-custodial parent to see their children, should lose custody. I’ll go further. Woman who refuse to let the biological father establish a relationship with his children, should receive NO child support.

            Why should I have to pay anything at all, when:

            a) The mother kept me out of the child’s life for the first 5 years she was alive, then gave me visits on occasion (every second week) for 5 hours a day.
            b) The mother has a better quality of life, due to a upper class family.

            The mothers who treat the biological father as a “sperm donor” and fail to allow them access to their children, are doing significant harm to their child. Just do research. Children who grew up without a biological father are exponentially at risk of being incarcerated, having children out of wedlock, having mental and physical health problems, commit suicide, suffer from substance abuse issues, and have difficulty forming their own relationships.

        • Melanie
          October 28, 2015 at 8:05 am

          I agree that child support should be paid. But it should only cover half of what the kids actually cost. Why should your ex pay for your phone bill or your vehicle? Do you pay for his phone bill and for his vehicle? Phones and vehicles are not expenses directly related to having kids…everyone needs these things. Look at all the people out there who do not have kids…they have phones and cars! And they also have mortgages..

        • Alex
          May 15, 2016 at 3:25 pm

          Of course you sleep fine at night. You can tell MEP any lie you dream up and get every penny your ex earns simply because you want it. You don’t have to worry about whether or not he’ll actually eat this week, or live in a house or a ditch. His money is safe and sound in your bank account, and because of that, you also don’t have to worry about that whole pesky business of him seeing his kids, because one simple phone call from you to MEP will get you even more of his money, him thrown in jail, or at the very least, homeless. So yeah, I understand why you sleep well at night.

  14. This Deadbeat Dad NEVER MISSED A PAYMENT
    February 2, 2015 at 9:08 am

    1) Had the discussion (initiated it), was lied to about birth control – she said allergic to laytex (found an open box of hers) and couldn’t take pill (lie)
    2) She has a previous child that she abandoned as a baby with the working father to go back to crack on the street, her parents get custody, send her to hollywood drug treatment in USA (no treatment here is adequate for her), and fund her crack habit and buy her a new car so he has transportation while unemployed (which she uses for a hit and run).
    3) I paid every bill. She did not pay a penny.
    4) I have paid every support check and outrageous alimony (remember her parents have supported her unemployed habit…but parental gifts are ignored by MEP) cheque
    5). She refuses to provide any tax information, has stole hundreds of pages of my financial paperwork, and thus I was late filing my income taxes.
    6) CRA takes time to review file (I sent my entire income tax submission with all financial details to MEP)
    7) talk to income recalculation in Dec – they agree to use a number based upon my financial documents
    8) January – my employer informs me that MEP will be stealing 40% of my GROSS salary, and because my pay comes 2x monthly an I already got my 1st cheque in Jan, I will have to pay my employer for the grossly overloaded work I performed in January.
    9) January – MEP then sends a letter to motorvehicles making me persona non grata just 3 days after sending #8. I have a community mailbox that I do not have time to check every day…I clear it on Fridays to deal with on the weekend…Unlike the proponent, I work….
    10) January (the same day MEP destroyed my wages) CRA finally does my assessment, says that a photo of the support cheque and the bank statements showing they were cashed (they all have the same unique value and are monthly) are inadequate evidence of my (never late or missing) support/alimony payments – I’ve since learned that I can get copies of cashed cheques, but only within the past year, so now I must pay $15/cheque to prove to CRA that I actually paid
    12) I await the next action by the MEP, which I can’t imagine being anything other than a big hairy smelly ape-like person with a baseball bat grunting about I don’t need my legs. It cost me >$16k to get 50:50 custody of my son from a crack addict that previously abandoned (disappeared Sunday night) her daughter with someone who couldn’t provide care as he had to work (Monday morning). It will cost me tens of thousands to continue to try and get what is best for my son, and what should be granted unless there is some reason otherwise (why isn’t 50:50 time the starting point – why does the irrational abductor with such a history get custody?).

    So, someone who uses unwitting fathers and colluding crown agents (as the unthinking and wholly unethical enforcers) is protected and supported (very generously – she doesn’t work because she’s making >$4K/month tax free off support and govt. cheques – I’m staring at bankruptcy), while the parent that has and continues to work to pay the bills to support the family including the willfully unemployed mother (lied repeatedly to me about “will work when the baby is older…), is TREATED WORSE BY THE SYSTEM THAN A CRIMINAL and is PUNISHED for being an excellent role model and loving father (it is wholly reciprocated) to his son.

    The stress of this is horrific. I won’t be able to pay the mortgage or food. Then MEP and the system will swoop down like a phoenix to save my abused son.

    What the @$%%$( am I supposed to do? How long will it take the bank to kick me out of my home? I really hope it warms up by then.

    The CBC reporter that wrote the grossly biased (untruthful) article must make an apology to us (many) victims of the MEP. The MEP only has one category for males, no matter if they were/are the ones paying all the bills – DEADBEAT. I am a deadbeat dad that paid all the bills (and would if I could, but I can’t anymore because of MEP), loves his son, is loved by his son, put his son to bed every night he was not working (>99% of nights when co-habitating), opened all my banking to the ex while she kept secret bank accounts….it goes on and on…I haven’t even got into the relevant details of her parentally funded lawyer/MEP aggession against the other father – he rarely sees his daughter despite paying…this is the only future I see now. I’ve been an excellent father for almost 5 yrs to my son, but that will soon be discontinued by MEP.

    My employer (a college – yes, I’ve been very responsible and am still paying for the student loans for my education that got me a good job. my ex, has a college degree hasn’t every been able to hold a job because of interpersonal conflict – unsurprising) was terrifically shocked by the wholly unrealistic and unjust actions of the MEP. I can only hope that CBC will make ammends and profile the complete and utter failures of the MEP.

    The MEP, as it currently operates (I’d choose a biker enforcement over MEP) is the greatest threat to my son and to me. Their actions so unreasonable so as to be EVIL.

  15. No Way - Scared and Depressed
    February 2, 2015 at 2:01 pm

    I’m old enough to know that human nature unfortunately can be evil, and I guess evil people need somewhere to work….but based on my fun with MEP, I can no longer claim that Canada is country of justice and fairness under our laws, nor that it even cares to strive for that in the family law system.

  16. Mark
    February 9, 2015 at 1:22 am

    What about doing a story on the parents who use the kids as pawns? I have two daughters, I pay my child/spousal support faithfully each month.

    We have a very detailed 9 page long custody agreement that covers everything and then some. It is wrote on the same piece of paper that my spousal and child support is wrote on. But for me to see my two daughters I need to go back to court and get a fresh court order.

    If we were to walk down the street tomorrow and poll a hundred people the vast majority would be able to tell what a deadbat dad was. What is the term for the mother who uses the kids as pawns?

    • darryl
      February 12, 2015 at 9:18 am

      so right Mark. I would also like to see this as I am living with this, having my Children Alienated from me by the mother with the assistance of the Family Court System that is Prejudice against Fathers in General, and I quote “Children are better off being raised by a mother”. This was said to me in a court during a custody case right after the mother committed perjury and since then fraud with the Aide of Maintenance Enforcement.

      • Alex
        May 15, 2016 at 3:39 pm

        Yup. I heard the same crap. My ex doesn’t even raise our daughter. My daughter is raised by her great aunt. She sees her mother like twice a month. I chased my kid all over this country, living on floors, scraping and scrounging for two bedroom apartments, while my ex moved from province to province, involving more than one of these evil maintenance programs. I haven’t seen my kid in a year, I can never get anyone to get her on the phone, and her mother, who she is “better off being raised by” doesn’t even raise her. Think I can get full custody? Not in this country…

    • Ryan
      April 13, 2015 at 3:03 pm

      Bang on.

  17. sandy
    March 9, 2015 at 10:53 pm

    The problem is mothers have 0 accountability and punishment when it comes to restricting fathers from seeing their children. We told the judge the ex wife wouldn’t allow us to see the child on a whim, so we asked for police enforcement for when those times arose. Judge said not unless there is a documented history of it. Which in turns means prove it; then come back pay more court fee’s only to be told the proof wasn’t enough to warrant police enforcement. The mothers know this. They know nothing will be done to them. Without police enforcement there really is no way to prove it. The police won’t get involved without the court order. Catch 22. In turn the mother lied to the judge saying we never showed up. Fortunately we had gas receipts to prove time and date that we were in her town (we live 2 hours away). But we were still denied the police enforcement.
    So what can be done to mothers who deny access? Nothing!
    Fathers are left with poor living conditions, over worked with no vacation time, loss of drivers license which in turn results in loss of job and then unable to pay support at all which results in jail time. With the biggest loss being their children.
    So what can Fathers do about it? Nothing! … Well they can live in a hovel, work 2-3 jobs at 12-16 hours a day for the next 18 yrs (24 if the child goes to college) become bitter men who wish nothing but death to the mothers of their children. Sad to say but it’s the only light at the end of the tunnel that they can pray for.
    The government MUST do something before bad things happen. Usually something bad does happen on a large scale before their eyes are open to change.
    MEP is the problem and needs to be overhauled. Have a set amount to be paid by the age of the child not the finances of the father. Have the word share in costs actually mean “Share”. If the father has to pay 500 then the mother must prove the child is costing her 500 as well. Don’t make the father pay 1000 just because the mother decides she doesn’t want to work. All women collecting from the MEP MUST have a job if she wants child support. No more freeloaders. Make the mothers just as accountable as the fathers.
    As for visitation both parents should show up at the MEP office to hand over the kids to the other parent. This would show which parent is failing and deserving of the deadbeat title. After X amount of missed drop off, the children are automatically given to the other parent or visitation is revoked from the non custodial parent for X amount of time. After the non custodial parent misses one year of visitation, then child support should be increased or permanent rights to child is revoked and child support stopped all together. This would ensure the mothers trying their absolute best to keep the fathers in the loop instead of sitting back and doing nothing.
    These may or may not be a good ideas, but if it provokes thinking and change then its a step in the right direction.

    Something needs to change.

  18. Darla
    April 13, 2015 at 8:44 am

    I am the recipient of support and I feel FMEP sees my case as not worth the cost to enforce because the arrears to them is minimal. They have bigger fish to fry that will bring in more revenue.

    My ex is playing them, he keeps the arrears just under $2000 so that they won’t enforce any action.

    Despite my frequent requests to take action they will not. They state that if they take action he may stop making the voluntary payments and basically make me feel like I should be thankful for the payments he is making. I have explained to them many times that he has a prominent position in an organization he has worked for for 23 years, is about to sell his current home and upgrade with his fiance, he takes several international vacations each year…this is not a person that would want any of this threatened. They still refuse to act.

    I am so disappointed with their passive attitude to my case, they are not there for the children…they are looking out for their own profits!!!

    • Ryan
      April 13, 2015 at 3:02 pm

      Hey if he is paying enough to keep it under $2,000 so they don’t come after you I think I would say go and life your life and be happy. If that is the case he is having to make monthly payments and you are better off than most. But that’s just me, and no I don’t think it’s ok for him to be in arrears at all, just you gotta move on as well for you and your children’s sake.

      • Truth
        April 13, 2015 at 3:25 pm

        I was thinking the same thing. It’s not right to be in arrears by $2,000 but if he is making 6 figures and they have two or more children, he must be paying roughly that per month.

      • Darla
        April 14, 2015 at 6:07 am

        I was not looking for words of wisdom on how I should live my life..nor would I take advice from from someone so bitter about their own life.

        I’m well aware there are others in much worse situation, not receiving any support, payers being harassed and brought to brink of bankruptcy. I was simply pointing out how flawed FMEP is. The fact that this is a US company employed by our government, that’s only concern is their revenue not the children, is a huge problem. The larger the arrears the more driven they are to collect.

        I do not require a reply..thank you!

        • Ryab
          April 14, 2015 at 7:05 am

          The bitterness shines through.

          Move on. Be happy. Don’t attack me…

        • Derek
          April 14, 2015 at 7:10 am

          Huh? The point of posting is for interaction, then you bite his head off when he makes some reasonable comments.

          Crawl back under your bridge.

          Makes no sense.

        • Cecilia
          April 14, 2015 at 7:12 am

          This is a woman giving woman a bad name. I apologize on her behalf. Clearly needs to get over something!!!

        • admin
          April 14, 2015 at 8:29 am

          Alberta is the same in how they mistreat all sides, but Government. FMEP does irk me more because they are for profit.

  19. Truth
    April 13, 2015 at 4:20 pm

    I also think it is pointless to contact CBC. They only run with stories that paint fathers in a negative light, and enjoy the overuse of the word “deadbeat.” I think it is foolish to believe anything CBC says, as hearing about fathers being alienated from their children simply does not fit in, with their agenda.

    I would rather write to the Government to end funding for the CBC, and their one-sided reporting, once and for all.

  20. jj
    August 14, 2015 at 9:45 am

    I read all these stories and i have to laugh.. Mep doesn not pick on, bull, or is the reason for suiced in fathers.. My ex is $22000 behind in arreas and still has his licence. Beats around the bush and does not work for any one with a paper trail all under the table. Refuses to do his taxes so that none of a possible return would come to me.. Oh yes “poor dads who cant get a passport” Poor dads who cant get a job” BS they can get a job they can get a passport! Its called Pay your proper Payments to children you made! I worked 3 jobs to make ends meet for 3 years to give my children what they needed. I may not get proper payment but im greatful for the little chunks of change that mep can retreve for me to pay off some of the debit accumlated from dead beat dads not paying.. Sooner or later it will catch up to you.. If you cant make a full payment mep is pretty good as long as you call them and give them a heads up and make some attempt. So Give up the Poor Me act and Boo Hoo stories yes you may have to sacrifice stuff to make you r child support payments but on the other end of the stick , so is the other side ! The bottom line it takes 2 people to make a child it takes two imcomes to support them.. Its one thing to walk away and not be there for them growing up! but these is resposiblies for your actions either way!

    • Truth
      August 14, 2015 at 2:25 pm

      Wow.

      You work three jobs. Would you like a medal?

  21. Sandy
    August 21, 2015 at 11:25 am

    For the lot of you posting about how you are not getting money from the “deadbeat” be thankful of one thing…. you have what these “deadbeats” don’t…. your child/ren. Think about it for a minute, how would you feel if your spouse walked in took your kids and said, “adios!” MOST “deadbeats” would pay happily if they were given the chance to be there for their kids as you are. The fact that visitation is being withheld MOSTLY because of money is what’s causing the non payment issues. Nothing in this world is free, so thinking you can just get payments and not give in return shows it’s all about you and not the child/ren. My ex has never paid but I allow the kids to see their dad whenever they want. Yet my fiance who pays a thousand a month, constantly has to fight to see his daughter. So yes boohoo to those who have to pay, go to court, fight for their visitation and to those who aren’t getting money. In the end the only ones who lose are the children.

    • Melanie
      October 28, 2015 at 8:10 am

      Do you ever notice that these mothers who cry “deadbeat” almost never pay a cent of child support in the case when they lose primary custody?

      • Sandy
        November 3, 2015 at 7:12 am

        Yep 87% or mothers do not pay child support because there is still the ideology of men “always” making more money. There are a lot of men who don’t apply for the woman to pay because they have their kids and don’t want to rock the boat with the ex trying to get the kids back. The equality of men and women goes right out the window when children are involved

  22. Anita
    August 25, 2015 at 12:55 pm

    Seven years ago my daughter left to go live with her dad because he had more money than me and would buy and give her whatever she wanted. I had full custody of her, until 7 years ago, because he physically abused her, but then after a while he took me to court and won joint custody because he had more money and a better lawyer. Once she was living with him, I received an order to pay child support of 506.00 per month and 2 years of arrears at that amount. It almost did me in, more than $12,000 in one year. Did I mention he gave me $150 a month (and not always), for child support, when I had my daughter living with me. I paid the child support, as I was forced to, even though I knew that my ex-husband did not need it. He is just vindictive. After she turned `19, she signed up for a college program. Her dad paid for it and then after a certain time period withdrew her from the program so he could get a refund. Did he let BC Family Maintenance know that he withdrew her from the program? No way. I knew she wasn’t going. She was actually working full-time. So for a year, I was paying maintenance to someone that didn’t need it (my ex has a lot of money and my daughter is living and being supported by him). Family Maintenance didn’t do anything about it. I kept emailing them, trying to talk to employees high up, etc. I would only get messages saying they received my messages. NO action was being taken. I could get no one of importance to talk to me. Finally, I managed to get a number, from someone I knew, and that person was the most disrespectful person I have ever had the displeasure of talking with. Finally, after threatening to go to the media they stopped enforcing (though it took them three months before they actually stopped taking my money). Now it has started up again. I am being forced to pay child support for another program my daughter is supposedly attending. I tried talking to Family maintenance but the only person I could talk to was some nobody that couldn’t give me a number to anyone higher than him. He couldn’t give me my caseworker’s number and I couldn’t be transferred to her. So I asked for my caseworker’s replacement. She was on the other line and I couldn’t wait on hold (as they don’t do that). Basically I was given the run around. Once again I will be garnished my wages and paying for something that I shouldn’t have to pay. If my daughter were actually going to school I would be happy to pay but she isn’t. Unfortunately, she has gotten in the bad habit of lying and being manipulative, like her father. I am just a little fish and we all know what happens to the little fish. I just wish that the Family Maintenance program was actually fair. They received way more money from me than they should have and who knows if my ex received all of it. They only care about the recipient not the hard working payee.

    • Dave Ritter
      March 29, 2018 at 11:44 am

      It’s amazing how it’s just accepted that women are automatically victims and men are automatically “perpetrators”.

      For our entire 17 year marriage, my ex earned more than me — usually more than $100k/year working for her father’s business. Then, when she decided she wanted a boy-toy (young enough to be her son!), and decided to move me out of her life, she also decided it was time for a sabbatical from working.

      With the help of her father’s money, she hired a lawyer to slap child and spousal support obligations on me that left me with not even enough to pay for a modest apartment. After living in my car for a short time (while working full-time to pay the staggering support obligation), I was fortunate to find a better-paying job in the US. While it wasn’t enough to rebuild my life in any meaningful way, it was enough to rent a single bedroom in a shared apartment near my new job. I lived there, sleeping on a blow-up mattress for almost 4 years, while my ex, propped up by her parents money, slapped me with legal action after legal action in a concerted effort to bankrupt me and steal all of the joint assets.

      Eventually, after about 3 years, I was able to find a reasonably-priced lawyer who was prepared to work on contingency to bring an application to force my ex back to work, and to enforce a court order to have the family home sold. (Unfortunately, this occurred at the bottom of the recession, so my proceeds from the house only covered my legal costs.) My ex immediately found a job at $126,000/yr., and her parents gave her a gift of $700k to buy a new home.

      Of course, FEMP was engaged in the meantime, and by extension California Child Services, and the support payments I was making directly to my ex were taken over by these dysfunctional, kafkaesque organizations. At this point I should note that I never missed a support payment. Never once. And for a period when my income went up, I voluntarily increased my child support payments based on the Canadian Child Support Tables, in spite of the economic hardship I was experiencing at the time. (When you have high-priced lawyers looking for ways to trip you up, you quickly learn to make sure all i’s are dotted and all t’s crossed…)

      Of course, after FMEP took over, the arrears began. The fluctuating dollar and inflated exchange rate they used for calculating the amount garnished from my pay (which appears to have nothing to do with the Bank of Canada exchange rates) resulted in about $30-$60/month just disappearing in service charges, and eventually arrears interest started to grow.

      Adding insult to injury, at the time of enrollment to FMEP, my ex simply decided not to cash a few of the cheques I had sent. She then claimed arrears based on the uncashed cheques. Then 2 days after the FMEP filed paperwork claiming arrears, she cashed the cheques, I sent the proof to FMEP that the arrears claim was falsified, and actually appeared in court in California with proof for CCS about the payments, but to this day, FMEP and CCS have never adjusted my account based on the fraudulent misrepresentations made by my ex when she enrolled in the program. More than $2200 in payments has simply not been recognized, in spite of the fact that the same proof was accepted by CRA in response to a tax implication arising from the alleged “arrears”.

      But all of this is just about the money. Despite paying over $280,000 in support to date, and almost as much in legal fees, I haven’t seen my kids in 5 years. In the early years, I saw them sporadically, but it was always too difficult to fit time for Dad into Mom’s schedule. Eventually, the visits turned into “an inconvenient nuisance”. Now the kids are in their teens. Never once a Father’s card, Birthday card, or Christmas card from them. On occasion, they actually pick up when I call, but Dad is simply out of the picture. The “new” Dad is the guy that gets the Father’s Day card — at Mom’s urging.

      I understand that divorce isn’t easy. However, I was the one that was trying to keep the family together (in spite of my ex’s infidelities). She recently moved into a $1.5M home in White Rock BC with her new fiance. Her net worth is at least 10 times my own, and yet I’m still on the hook for almost $2000/month.

      If I had a relationship with my kids, I wouldn’t mind the dysfunction of FMEP. What I find remarkable is that these organizations protect Mom from legal fees associated with support, but they do nothing to protect Dad from legal fees associated with ensuring visitation and a healthy relationship with the kids. This is discrimination based on sex, which I believe is contrary to the Charter of Rights & Freedoms.

      Of course FMEP can’t be taken to court, so they operate outside of the law. They are free to make the rules, and with other more pressing matters at election time, they have no fear of political pressure for poor performance.

      I support the intent of the organization, but the implementation is fundamentally lob-sided and needs to be revisited.

  23. Sarah
    December 7, 2015 at 8:09 am

    The FMEP has been collecting child support payments on behalf of my son since 2009, yet I never received a dime until mid 2010! I had to wait 10years to finally see anything, yet they kept the 1st bunch of payments and i never recived them! They’ve been sending money to Ontario, even thought I live in BC and have no account in Ontario! They continue to collect money and I’m not receiving those payments, only the odd payment i actually recieve! Some payments as small as 5cents! Yet they collect from him regularly and even charge 400$ late payment fees that they also keep for themselves! They demanded I set up direct deposit and wouldn’t send any payments even though they had my address and would send the odd payment for odd amounts here and there! They continually ignored direct deposit forms i sent in! It took over 3years for them to finally accept direct deposit forms from me! But they still will not send my regular payments! I know his father also pays on the 10year debt he has with MY SON,, they collect all his Gst & taxes, yet i never recived any of that! I don’t even get the regular $205/month I’m supposed to receive for my son!
    I would really like to see them exposed for the scam artists that they are!! At this point I really don’t know what to do! I can imagine eventually they will be caught! They’ve made this a lucrative business for themselves, profiting off of the backs of children in Canada that depend on these payments! This is money ordered to my son by the courts,, not the FMEP!
    THANK YOU CBC for giving me the opportunity to share my experience with the FMEP here! No1 else listens when i tell them! And i really don’t know what else to do! This is supposed to be a government program ran to help parents obtain support for their children,, not a big business for them to make profit! and i have a huge problem with them Keeping not Only my Payments, but these 400$ late payments for themselves! Meanwhile my son is still waiting for his 1st ever birthday present from his father,, or a Christmas gift from his father,, or anything!!!! He’s definitely a deadbeat, but how does collecting 400$ for themselves/late payment, help my son???And I should be charging THEM $400 for each payment they’ve collected and held at will!! If they actually turned over the payments he makes, maybe I could live with these 400$ late payment fees, But they don’t and it’s too late for that! Their dishonest and the FMEP is a big SCAM!!!

    • Sarah
      November 6, 2016 at 7:24 am

      It’s been a long while since I received my support payments from fmep. They continue to collect and keep the money(interest free loan?), changed my password so I can’t log in online anymore, or call in and talk(you have to have your password it’s the only way), I had to fight them for a few years to get this password, then they go ahead and change it without my knowledge or consent! I do plan on taking them to court and getting every dime they’ve garnished from my sons father! They’ve went as far as taking away his licence (he drives truck for a living) & making his life a living he’ll if he doesn’t pay their demands, yet my son gets absolutely none of it! I’m disappointed no1 at CBC has ever responded to my comments here! I’m telling whoever will listen, that this is happening! Meanwhile they pocket the support meant for my son! I will be expecting interest, I didn’t want to loan in out in the first place! I had originally asked his father for $100/month, but he dodged it for 10years! This is the consequence!

  24. Jeff
    March 16, 2016 at 3:19 pm

    In 1994 my wife at the time ransacked our home – took exactly the things she wanted to take – including the child of our marriage, and moved some 1500 kilometers away.
    I was out of town and on business for 8 days. About 3 days into my travels – I realized something had gone wrong. For the next 2 weeks of my life – I and others looked frantically for my wife and child – it seemed like everyone was looking – everyone except the Edmonton Police Service. Although I filed a missing persons report and an incident report – and although the city of Edmonton Police – attended to my house – they did absolutely nothing. My child was gone – forever !!! They didnt care We eventually did determine where my wife and child were – when I was served divorce papers. jurisdiction – Winnipeg Mantiboa.
    When I got to court – I was simply told by the court in Winnipeg that in terms of the abduction of my child – unless the City of Edmonton Police pressed charges – from their perspective there was no crime. Thank you EPS – for doing absolutely nothing – for not upholding the law I lost my child forever and you did nothing about it !!!!

  25. Eric
    March 18, 2016 at 2:01 am

    FMEP has garnished my wages for years now, I have always paid, but have been labeled a deadbeat dad. Couldn’t find work. Finally, after completing college, I was hit with more arrears, only to find out my X from ten years ago has been charging me for daycare when in fact there hasn’t been daycare for atleast four years. So now I am in arrears for daycare that I don’t even owe. FMEP says take her to court. She has also submitted bills to FMEP with no receipts. I am supposed to pay 489.00 per month, FMEP takes between 600.00 and 1000.00 per month. I cannot live, I have nothing of value. The X bought a new condo, remarried and is laughing all the way to the bank.
    She doesn’t let me see the children(2), and restricts them from communicating with me via phone or even text messages. Two and a half months since I have seen them. Just saw them last weekend, they tell me the new step-dad is yelling at them, throwing their belongings off the balcony. The mother does nothing and tells me I have no rights to know where my kids are.

  26. Rod
    July 11, 2016 at 11:31 am

    I’ve been part of the Maintenance enforcement Program in Manitoba for the last 17 years. My kids are now 21 and 18. I have been paying consistently for years, but now it seems more than impossible to get a fair shame when you’re the one paying. I recently lost my job. And have a net income of $908 biweekly. I informed MEP that I had lost my job and couldn’t afford to pay based on my previous income of $57,000 a year for two kids. I am remarried with 2 kids with my wife who also has two sons of her own who are now 19 and 23. They are now garnishing my EI payments and left me with a net payment of $420 this week and will leave me only that amount biweekly unless I get a variance on my court order. I’ve started to do this on my own and have gotten help from the legal.help center but it doesn’t happen right away. This is where the system is flawed. It doesn’t take anything into account. My ex is remarried with a child of her own living a very comfortable life. My kids are now suffering because of the circumstances that I have to contend with. My wife is a paralegal for the provincial prosecutors office so she writes up her own legal documents and has fee legal consultation from the lawyers she works with. This time as soon as I was 30 days in arrears my license and my insurance were canceled automatically and took me a week to get back. Hard enough to find employment as a 42 year old starting over let alone doing it without a driver’s license.

    • admin
      July 11, 2016 at 11:35 am

      But they paint everyone with the “deadbeat” brush anyway and refuse to look at the reality of the situation. Sorry for what you are experiencing. Too many of us have been in your shoes.

      • Jeff Wood
        July 11, 2016 at 12:03 pm

        I literally lost my child. He was abducted – harboured – I couldn’t finds him for 3.5 weeks. She abducted him from the city of Edmonton to the city of Winnipeg. I reported it 18 times to the city of Edmonton Police. They didn’t care – they laughed. I stood in front of 2 judges here in Alberta – they didn’t care either. Told me that it was a criminal matter. and the police would have to press charges. They wouldn’t and they didn’t. The only thing the court was concerned about was money. Not the child’s well being, safety or the Father. The child is gone. Thank you Edmonton Police Service – thank you Alberta crown and courts. You need to do your job!

  27. Warren Galenzoski
    October 16, 2016 at 5:06 pm

    407 – 4980 Kingsway in Burnaby BC is the Burnaby Client Offices address. Those slave traders at the fmep aren’t so badass when you knock on the door. They use enforcement. Shouldn’t be surprised if every now and then someone hits back. Even bullies get burned sometimes.

  28. Sarah
    November 6, 2016 at 7:24 am

    It’s been a long while since I received my support payments from fmep. They continue to collect and keep the money(interest free loan?), changed my password so I can’t log in online anymore, or call in and talk(you have to have your password it’s the only way), I had to fight them for a few years to get this password, then they go ahead and change it without my knowledge or consent! I do plan on taking them to court and getting every dime they’ve garnished from my sons father! They’ve went as far as taking away his licence (he drives truck for a living) & making his life a living he’ll if he doesn’t pay their demands, yet my son gets absolutely none of it! I’m disappointed no1 at CBC has ever responded to my comments here! I’m telling whoever will listen, that this is happening! Meanwhile they pocket the support meant for my son! I will be expecting interest, I didn’t want to loan in out in the first place! I had originally asked his father for $100/month, but he dodged it for 10years! This is the consequence!

    • admin
      November 6, 2016 at 7:43 am

      CBC likely won’t respond. They didn’t even have comments open for these stories which is why I left the page open for people to speak about it.

  29. Sarah
    November 6, 2016 at 7:46 am

    I received an account summary once when I requested it because the first year in payments where missing(I wasn’t contacted during the first year they started garnishing his wage, he told me he started paying after we found each other on Facebook, that’s how I found out), along with most monthly payments and debt repayment(he pays on the 10year debt he has with my son. $205/month as court ordered), and I spoke with a person that managed my caseworker at the time, he was aggressive and told me I “endorsed ” them sending my payments elsewhere (I absolutely did not)!!! When I received the account summary, it showed payments being sent to an account in Ontario (I was living in BC during those times and have no account out there) So with the documents they sent, and other government documents I have proof we live out here in BC (my kids where also in public school out here in BC), I can prove what I’m saying! They’ve profited huge off of the backs of our children! Notably, some of Canada’s poorest children! It’s criminal, and the ones running it, should be thrown in prison for a massive fraud ring, their assets seized (to repay what they owe), and made an example out of. How are they still getting away with this?

  30. Cory Boudrea
    February 24, 2018 at 6:29 pm

    NS MEP is unrealistic. After 5 years of lawyers and fighting to see my children, I got slapped with an arrears payment of 16,000 dollars, which should have only been approx 8000.00 but thats another story. I was enrolled in 2015…and kept up with my support payments of 1100 a month. The arrears were debateable but had no more money to fight them.

    MEP garnished the following…my 565 a month..and 25% of my grois biweekly pay. Which turns out to be 855 dollars on top of 565. 1420 garnished out of 1800. Twice a month. I proposed paying 13000 of the arrears the first year and 3000 by May 2019……Rejected by MEP!!!!

    My partner is a recipient in the program where her x partner owes 55,000 plus…with a court order of 1000 a month…she gets 250 a month. That is his garnishment….what the heck?????

    I am a teacher by profession, and I am contemplating leaving the profession…not because if all that is happening among teachers in NS…vut because MEP is collect at all costs. This unrealistic garnishment dies not allow for a home. I could understand if the woman getting the money was in bad need…but she is a teacher making 80,000 plus 15000 in child support a year. With this garnishment she is clearing 6000.00 dollars a month….what children need 6000 a month. Tbe program was put in place to make sure primary caregivers and the children do not go with out….no kidding but 6000.00 a month…a little nuts.

  31. Chris
    March 21, 2018 at 3:48 pm

    The Manitoba maintenance enforcement program is a joke. I had an agreement with them that they were taking the money out of my account. In December, they took out 2 payments. Not exactly sure why as I wasn’t behind at all. In the new year, for some reason they didn’t take any money out. The money was there for them to take out. Then all of a sudden, they issue a demand to the bank to freeze my account. The money is there to take out. This doesn’t look good for my credit and I can’t pay other bills because of these idiots. It is a complete joke to be involved with this program.
    Also, my ex-wife, I am sure, doesn’t use any of the money I give her on my daughter for clothing or any necessities. The clothing she comes to me in are complete garbage. They have holes in them and she actually wears them to school like that. It is just asking to be teased. My ex has another child that I am sure my money goes towards to as she never went after the guy she had the kid with for child support. She was hoping I would never find out about it because she cheated on me. I them went over a year without seeing my daughter.
    Like I said, the Maintenance Enforcement program is a complete joke. Some of us dads deserve better treatment. It would also be nice to phone maintenance enforcement and actually get treated with respect.

  32. Dawnelle D
    September 29, 2018 at 9:53 am

    Alberta Maintenance Enforcement is withholding my support up to 6 days after the date of the court order.
    The payments are automatically withdrawn from my spouses account but AB MEP suggests that they must ensure that the auto-debit clears through the account that they personally took the amount from.
    These are not personalized cheques, that may be returned…these are automatic debits that are taken from the account immediately…they have even lied to me claiming that my financial institution is holding on to the deposit ?.
    I have only been with the AB MEP since September 1st and they have already caused me to incur $100.00 in NSF fees. When I addressed my concerns with MEP, I believed they intentionally withheld my support longer claiming that “someone” had reported that I had received a direct payment from my ex-spouse and did not report it thereby creating an overpayment…this is and was totally made up because my ex-spouse submitted an email calling me a “retard [which name calling was normal for him] saying that MEP had begun taking out payments from his account Sept 1st”, yet it took them 6 days to deposit the funds into my account…Someone needs to be held accountable for the damage that they are personally inflicting on people and their families

  33. Mike
    October 10, 2018 at 5:54 pm

    FMEP is a scam… It is not and never will be “In the best interest of a child”

    These companies like many other companies were formed to make money, and that they do. Only difference is, they are legal crooks. They use the family law, divorce law and whatever crap they can dig up to enforce MONEY.

    Nothing about enforcing to see your child, would that not be in the best interest of the children ? To make any changes to orders in BC in family law courts you need to take a course on Family After separation program and then talk to a family counsellor. Well some have been going to court for years on end, so not sure how that program will benefit, when they do nothing for you. You talk to them, they give you a pink slip you go to court. Is it to keep people employed ? Makes no sense.

    There are many issues that need to be addressed. the laws are outdated and belong way back with the dinosaurs, Not only do they need to be changed, but some need to go away completely.
    Courts and lawyers is another big issue, seems like they are all in on it, no matter how much factual information you provide into these courts, it gets dismissed, and the WORD of the narcissist is taken without any factual proof.

    So yes it is a big scam, and the judges are not real judges on the bench, for of they were, and they had any common sense, they would do the right thing. No accountability for their actions, how do they sleep at night, oh yes no compassion for their fellow man, these are heartless people that have no place in society, except to side with the narcissistic people making false claims and accusations.

    So the whole system is a legal criminal organisation, that is the bottom line.

    The laws were made to protect people against criminals, yet the laws are used against us as if we are actual criminals. Innocent until proven guilty does not exist. The only thing that is exist is how they can make money being legal criminals.

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